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Hypocrites. Aren’t We All?

As I talked about in my blog on Modern Pioneer Magazine, “Why Working From Home Could Be The Best Way To Go Green,” working from home may be one of the biggest things you can do to go green this year. No commute. No traffic. No gas. No emissions. No rush. No being forced to eat garbage food from fast food restaurants. Less stress, less hassle, less worry about daycare. It’s all around a better gig than the daily grind for sure. You make your own hours, you’re your own boss and you still get paid.

I’ve had some conflicts over it though. I am very against the digitalization of modern society, yet I do inbound customer service for a huge wireless company. It’s pretty ironic when you think about it. My job is to promote and propagate one of the things I hate the most. It makes for interesting internal conflicts, especially considering the fact that I actually like my job. I like problem-solving, I like the challenge and I like the interaction. I hate the product. I hate what it stands for. I hate that it seems to control people’s lives.

How do I rationalize that? I don’t. I don’t justify it either. It is what it is. I earn money contributing to what I believe is a cancer upon society. There is no denying it. I guess in some way, most of us do the same thing. But the money I earn goes toward creating a(n eventually) self-sufficient lifestyle. It goes to help fund small businesses and struggling artists. It goes to help animals in need. It supports small farms. It funds a message I strongly believe in. It’s not a perfect situation but what is?

I guess in the end, all we can do is find a way to live with ourselves for the concessions we have to make.

I Think Amy Glass’s Feminism is a Joke & I’m Not Sorry

Recently I read a blog by a person named Amy Glass entitled, “I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry.” Among other gems it contained the assertion that “You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids” and that “Women will be equal with men when we stop demanding that it be considered equally important to do housework and real work.”

Excuse me?

Raising children is one of the most important things we will ever accomplish on this earth. It is the most important legacy we leave and it is really the only one that matters. We are literally creating the next generation of people. Going by the logic expressed in her article, even the most paltry, insignificant bean-counting job validates a woman more than having children does. Does this dumb broad really think that stocking shelves at Wal Mart is more important than raising responsible, well-adjusted children?

The most important thing to note here is Ms. Glass’s inability to understand that choices are a fundamental concept of feminism. Women fought for the choice to work or stay home, not to be required to do either. Feeling like you may vomit every time you “hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes” is the antithesis of feminism. So is demanding that women be in the station in life that you ascribe to them and ridiculing them if they are not.

Sorry, Ms. Glass, but the sisterhood you envision is not a bunch of childless, single women sitting around discussing how much better off and more fulfilled they are than those “other” women. The sisterhood that your type all but demands is something you will ironically never be able to participate in. It is non-judgemental. It is all-supportive. It is about true choice and freedom. These are things that you seem to know absolutely nothing about. Your bitterness is only surpassed by your ignorance. It’s a shame.

To those who agree with Ms. Glass, here’s a newsflash: It is not necessary for women to get your approval regarding the choices they’ve made in life. That’s your hangup. You have no input, say, relevance or right to judge anyone else’s life or their choices.

You are no better than Ms. Glass. She does not understand the concept of freedom, choice or equality and neither do you.

Ms. Glass states that she will not reveal personal information such as whether or not she has kids, or her age. She doesn’t need to tell me her age or if she has children. She is obviously a bitter, immature person with no children who apparently feels marginalized and desperately wants to feel validated and fulfilled in the face of her “sisters” who are raising families. There is no other explanation for the bitterness on display in that article.

Attempting to feel validated by putting others down is the sign of a malfunctioning ego. Ms. Glass’s response to the criticism was even more bitter. She stated that everyone criticizing her is just an angry “breeder,” that her job is far more worthwhile and fulfilling than having children (LOL) and that at least she will have something to show for her life when she dies. I’m not sure how much impact a bitter blogger has on the world but I do know that no one ever laid on their death bed wishing they’d written more internet articles or spent more time at work.

I respect mothers who work. I respect mothers who don’t work. I respect women who choose not to have children at all. What I don’t respect are people who think their definition of success, relevance or exceptionalism gives them the right to judge others.